It’s confession time. There was a time in my life where I did NOT shower everyday. You may be thinking,
“That’s okay, Saung, was it every other day?”
No, sis. It was more like, whenever I felt like I stunk. REAL TALK. I’m not proud of it, but I generally showered about every 3 days or when I started to notice my skin getting ashy and hear my whole body screaming, “Saung it’s time!.”
I noticed my white friends seemed to shower ALL the time. Like ALL the time. And I never understood how because for me, it felt like such a hassle to cover my hair with a shower cap, take a shower, shave, and moisturize every day. The whole process took me at least 30 minutes. Somehow, other individuals were able to get it done in 5 minutes or less and I was shook.
The truth is, I saw moisturizing as the biggest hassle, ESPECIALLY when I started paying for my own lotion. Showering every day and dare I say it… multiple times a day when a day called for it… meant using double the lotion I was accustomed to using. And double the lotion meant double the money. Shea Moisture and Jergens lotions don’t come cheap!
It wasn’t until about two years ago that I really started taking showering and self-care in general seriously. It was about two years ago that I realized I had some WORK to do when it came to my own self-esteem, self-confidence and self-image.
I thought I was a fun, dope person, but I didn’t attribute a whole lot of worth to myself outside of my personality. I had issues believing I was worthy of love or good things in general and I always felt like the women around me were better than me in some way. Better dancers. Smarter. More interesting. Just, better.
When I made the decision to really step into myself and learn to truly, deeply and recklessly love myself, I was overwhelmed with where to start.
What practical steps can I take to get to where I want to be and to feel how I want to feel about myself? I thought.
I knew I didn’t have enough money to see a therapist regularly. So, I figured I’d have to create a DIY approach in the meantime.
I went online and researched practical things I could do to boost my self esteem and one of the articles suggested showering every day.
Showering everyday?? I thought. Are they going to pay for my lotion though???
Though I was shook at the thought, I knew I wanted to do something. I knew that if I was truly going to be committed to my self care and self love journey, I couldn’t be afraid of dropping a few extra dollars to purchase lotion.
So, I committed to it. To showering every day. And it has radically changed the way I feel about myself and has become one of my favorite parts of the day.
I love the feeling of rubbing the soapy suds all over my body, grooming my hoo ha, and scrubbing my neck. I love purchasing new shower products, like body scrubs that make me feel pampered, luscious and whole.
Showering every day helped my self esteem. Here’s how.
It Forced me to Prioritize The Way I Felt
When I didn’t shower daily, I often felt some type of way about it. Sometimes I felt stinky. Sometimes I felt frustrated about my financial situation. Sometimes, I just felt low. But, showering every day forced me to prioritize the way I felt and empowered me to act on it. When I felt stinky, I showered.
When I felt like I wanted to relax, I showered. When I felt frustrated about my financial situation, I did something for myself that felt good – standing underneath the faucet and letting the hot water cascade down my body. Showering every day taught me that when I’m feeling something, it matters and I learned to respond to my feelings, whatever they were, with love by doing something positive for myself.
It Increased My Body Confidence
Showering every day increased my body confidence. I’ve always been one who’s loved, enjoyed and been comfortable being naked. But, showering every day took it to another level. Having that private time each morning or evening, pampering myself in the shower, washing myself down, exfoliating, and moisturizing helped me know my body more intimately.
I was seeing it every day and loving on it every day by showering. And let me tell ya’ll, when I emerge from the water and step out from beyond the shower curtain, I truly want to take naked pictures. I see myself dripping wet, looking like a African goddess, and I feel good. Really freaking good.
It Gave Me Something to Commit To
Showering everyday is a commitment. It’s a commitment to shower before bed even when you’re tired. Or, to get up a couple of minutes early in the morning to shower even when you’d rather stay in bed and hit the snooze button. When I made the commitment to myself to shower everyday, I had no idea how good it would feel to keep that commitment.
No one else knew about my experiment. Only me. And each day I did it, I grew more confident knowing that I could do something to better myself and commit to it. I saw myself as someone who could take control and ownership of my life and my situations. Who wasn’t afraid to try new things and who was capable of committing to whatever I chose to. I felt capable and that made me feel great about myself.
If you struggle with self-esteem, I’d encourage you to give showering every day a try. If you already shower every day, try adding a few more things to your shower ritual.
Do you have a soap or body wash that you love? Do you exfoliate? Can you add a hair mask to your shower routine once a week?
This self-love journey is all about growing in love and appreciation for ourselves, our bodies, souls, spirits and minds. We can always go deeper, so dig deep ladies! And have fun trying out new showering rituals!
Here are a few of my favorite products from my daily showering ritual: